We all are humans who make mistakes but to a mind of a child, its parents are more than just a human. The parents are its guardians, caretakers and creators. For that reason the parents do and how they behave is a crucial part of the psyche of the children. If they are hungry they speak to the parents and if they’re cold and harsh they yell and shout when there is something wrong. The way people approach to the mistakes is how they learn and overcome those mistakes.
Here are some phrases that you shouldn’t use when you talk to your child:
It may be the worst thing that a child can hear, especially when you’re its mental figure and they expect most of to be approved. In this way you’re putting the child on a journey that never ends to seek approval from the outside world. You’re letting them to believe that they have nothing instead of helping them. Instead of saying this, you can say ‘It is not your day, but you will do better the next time’, or ‘nobody is perfect’, or ‘you can do better’.
Stop crying right now
When a child does something for which it knows that it will be punished, it starts crying. That is its emotion even there is no reason to cry. It has the right to express how it feels. By stopping this process, the child will suppress its emotions. You should hug it and explain that it is wrong what it did but it is great to show how it feels.