After months of crushing on the man or woman of your dreams, you finally score a date. You’re excited and thinking of where this could lead. Before you start planning your future, you’ll need to master a few basics.
“Every successful date requires at least some pre-date planning and preparation. Getting things right in the days leading up to the main event will ensure you don’t get dumped before the date even happens,” says Kristi Allain in Nailed It!
First impressions matter. Avoid these mistakes so your crush will actually pick up the phone when you call for a second date.
1. Be late
Whatever you do, don’t be late. Punctuality is always important, especially on the first date. If you show up late, it will send the message that you just don’t care. Reduce your chances of a late arrival by departing earlier than usual.
“Unfortunately, I’ve seen lots of bad advice about turning up late on dates to show how much in demand you are. All that this will communicate is how inconsiderate you are and that you’re unable to manage your time properly. What else are you unable to manage properly if you can’t be in a certain place at a certain time?” says Charlie Valentino in First Date Tips For Men.
2. Talk about your ex
The first date is not an appropriate time to talk incessantly about past loves. Keep a lid on it unless it is relevant to the conversation. And even then, don’t stay on the topic longer than necessary. It’s best to steer clear of a discussion about your exes until the time is right. If you just can’t help yourself, and your ex is still all you talk about, you’re clearly not over the relationship. You may need a break from dating so you can deal with your issues. Don’t date on the rebound, as these relationships rarely turn out well. Heal your heart first, and then jump back into the dating pool when you’re ready.