Dating is complicated enough without baggage. But, when the baggage is a marriage that didn’t work out, things can get confusing. All of us are seen through labels of our relationship status, among others. If someone is single well into their adulthood, they are seen as too high-headed, or perhaps, just difficult to be with. If someone has been with the same person for several years, they are seen as either boring or grounded. A serial monogamist is seen as too picky. And a divorcee is seen as… damaged goods. None of these are accurate or fair descriptions. People change, and one’s romantic alliance is often the least important of the things that define them.
That said, “single,” “committed,” “complicated,” or even “married” can change at any point. You can enter a relationship, leave one, uncomplicate the other, and walk out of your marriage. But, if you’ve been divorced, regardless of where your life takes you, you will always be divorced. That has its bearings. And if you’re interested in dating someone who is divorced, forget everything you’ve ever believed in, and understand these seventhings…
They don’t need you
They’ve been there, done that. They’ve been in the dating market, marriage market, marital bliss, and come out the other side. They’ve learned to enjoy being on their own, and, in all likelihood, in the aftermath of the demise of their marriage, learnt to build a life of their own which they live on their own terms. They don’t need you for money, or social validation, or even comfort. If they welcome you into their life, then that means that they WANT you. And that means a lot more than someone basing a relationship on need.