Are you spending most of your weekends alone, even when you’d rather not? Then it’s time to do a little self-exploration. Either you’re just really bad at picking dates or there’s a reason why no one wants to be around you. Let’s take a look at five ways you’re sabotaging your relationships.
1. You’re indifferent
Staying cool, calm, and collected might work for a job interview, but it doesn’t cut it in the dating world. If you genuinely like someone, say it. Don’t hide your feelings in an effort to look like you have it all together or to avoid the risk of looking like a fool. Smile and show you are enjoying your date’s company. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. Just being your awkward, funny self can be the most attractive thing. If you miss your date, say so. If you’re looking forward to spending time together again, share that. Letting someone know you care is enough to make their heart melt.
2. You’re mean
It’s never OK to be rude. Don’t forget common courtesy, like saying “please” and “thank you.” Also, remember to be polite to those who serve you. Just because someone is holding the door or bringing a meal to your table does not give you the right to release vitriol whenever you please. Think before you speak, and don’t forget to add a little bit of patience and kindness. A little niceness can go a long way. If you insist on being mean and consistently turn a blind eye to the needs of others, it’s pretty much guaranteed you will spend a lot of time alone.