Maybe you and your gyno are pals and you tell her all the dirty details of your sex life, whether it's recounting your youthful days as a siren who conquered her own manifest destiny of bedding all of the eligible bachelors in your city or sharing every step you and your husband have taken while working your way through sex therapists' suggestions.
But, realistically, that's probably not the case, and you're more likely to approach your annual gyno visit with trepidation, viewing those stirrups as a symbol of torture. And perhaps you don't like talking about vagina, viewing it as something that you only look at when you insert and remove a tampon. But your annual OB/GYN appointment is not the time to hold stuff back! In fact, the more info you share, the better — and these are some things you should never, ever lie about to your doctor. Remember: like Planet Fitness, your gyno's office is a judgment-free zone.
1. What's Really Going On With Your Sex Life
Although it can be hard to remember all the pleasurable things that happened to your vagina mid-pap smear, don't forget what your lady parts do when they're not freezing up while your feet are awkwardly positioned in stirrups. Think about what they've been doing since the last time you saw your gyno. If your vagina has seen more suitors in the past year than the first cocktail party in a Bachelorette season premiere, then it's time to disclose that you've been with a lot of people. If you've been only with one guy forever, you should fill your gyno in on that, too. Why? It's not so that you can come batting averages or to make you feel ashamed or to remind you about that annoying dry spell. It's so that your gyno can know what to screen you for!
"First and foremost, [you have to share your] number of sexual partners," says Laurie Birkholz, OB/GYN. "Just so we can help a patient regarding to assessing risk – including common things like HPV, and more significant things, or more serious things like HIV. I'm always encouraging patients to be open. They maybe a little embarrassed depending on that number, but believe me, as physicians we should heard it all."
Not all gynos want graphic specific, though — they just want to know if you've had anything risky happen recently.
"I don't need to know all the nitty-gritty details," says Laurie Streicher, OB/GYN, "but if you did have unprotected sex and you are worried, don't lie."
Contrary to what some random person on the street might have told you, gynos cannot read your mind, and they also can't just look at your vagina and go, "oh, yes! That woman is in a faithful relationship and has only had sexual partner." If that were the case, uh, that would be weird....or warrant your gyno her own reality television show, and do you really want your gyno visits to be on TV?